As you might have guessed from my post yesterday that it was kind of a hard day for me. Sometimes dealing with a disorder like bipolar can be tricky and hard to navigate. But so is life in general. Sometimes we just struggle and there really isn’t an easy answer or way out. That is when we need to be still and trust, be still and know that our Savior sees us, that He loves us, and that there may be things going on behind the scenes that He is working out in order for things to fall into place later on and it just hasn’t been figured out yet.
I do, however, want to talk today, a little more about agency. Because the one thing that I did learn yesterday as I struggled to understand the whys, is that there are very few times in our life that we don’t have a choice.
Whether the choice is to give up, or keep pressing forward, or to let God help grow us in a way that will help us to progress to a higher and holier way. Now, I know that some days it is ok and necessary to give up on something for time. But that doesn’t mean that God is not there, nor that we can never come back to that at a later time in our progression on this side of the veil.
Agency can be a tricky thing. On the one hand we want it to truly be free. We want to be able to do, act, and say things, without having to answer to anyone. I know I felt that way when I left the church for a time. But no matter what our choice is, it can never be a matter of whether it is FREE or not. Because there will always, always, be a consequence. That may be a good and positive consequence or it can be a bad and negative consequence. But there is never a situation where we make a choice and there is NO consequence. Whether we like it or not is irrelevant. For this reason, I believe agency is one of the greatest parts of the plan that our Heavenly Father put in place. The plan that our Savior proposed. So that we can develop our hearts and our minds to come to a place where we realize that in this life, it is always, always about where our hearts are centered. Are we centered in self or are we centered in the love that our Savior so perfectly taught us. Our choices will always come back to where your heart lies.
When we are speaking of choices, some of you may choose to disagree. And that is ok. That is also part of the plan. We were put here on this Earth to learn many things. But I think one of the most important things that we were put here to learn, is how to get along and love even when it’s difficult. Especially when it’s difficult. Just because someone is making a different choice than what we would have chosen, does not mean that it is a wrong choice for them. Unless of course in the case that it is doing harm to someone else.
I guess what I am trying to say is that having hard days, and having to make tough choices is how we progress and press forward in this life. It isn’t always easy. In fact it’s almost never easy. But it’s important to remember that every choice we make has a consequence. Even when we choose not to make a choice, that is indeed a choice.
I am going to refer back to a talk given by Russell M. Nelson in 1990. He suggested 3 questions to ask ourselves to help us when making tough choices or decisions.
1. Who am I?”
2. “Why am I here?”
3. “Where am I going?”
“I won’t go into the details here, because I want you to go read it and digest what he says, but these are important questions to ponder when making choices.
He goes on to say “As you …face many challenging choices in life, remember, there is great protection when you know who you are, why you are here, and where you are going. Let your unique identity shape each decision you make on the path toward your eternal destiny. Accountability for your choices now will bear on all that lies ahead.
May each of us choose wisely and with faith in Him who created us…”
So my invitation to you if you are faced with a difficult challenge is to Psalm 46:10 “Be still and Know” that our Savior is very aware of the things that you are going through. Don’t leave Him out of the equation. Pray to Him and be believing. And He will guide you in the direction that will be best for you and your personal situation.
Have a great day my friends and I’ll talk to you all again tomorrow!